The theory of overdone strengths
Bob once told me that there are no such things as personal weaknesses, only over-done strengths. If you think about this as I have, you come to realize it’s true.
- If your strength is confidence, over-done this become arrogance.
- Self-reliance over-done becomes stubbornness.
- A person who cares too much for others may become a “pleaser” who loses their own sense of self if the strength is over-done.
This view of the world has been useful to me in several ways.
First, when somebody comes across as arrogant or stubborn, I recognize that there is an underlying strength there, too.
It also helps me put my own faults into perspective. For example, as the first-born of six kids, I was always taking care of babies and standing up for these younger, weaker humans. As I entered the workforce, I recognized this trait translating into my comfort with mentoring young people — a helpful leadership trait. But over-done, I can be over-protective when I need to let people stand on their own.
How do you see this perspective play out in your own life? Do you have over-done strengths?
By Mark Shaefer